OK, its time to get very personal. So without being rude, how old are you? Interestingly, our age is the exact number of years it has taken for us to form our values, the 'what', 'why' and 'how' of the way we think, how we interpret and engage with the world, the way we act and react in situations, how we show emotion and express our feelings, the way we like to dress, what we do and don’t like to eat, the list goes on…It has taken decades of consistently, thinking, feeling and doing all these things in certain ways that has resulted in the person we are today.
This means that nothing about us is accidental or happened overnight. It also means that whatever we want to improve about ourselves also won’t happen accidentally or overnight. This is where CHANGE TRAINING comes into play. CHANGE TRAINING is about achieving a desired outcome through a constant process of ‘practising to get better’. Its a term coined by the MB Team in recognition of the fact that behavioural change is hard and often involves relapses and sometimes even regression.
To explain further, think about the word ‘training’. Everything we are good at involved some form of training (learning and creating) at some point. Even if something comes naturally to us, we continue to improve because we refine that skill by challenging it. It doesn’t matter if it’s a sport, a skill (like playing a musical instrument), or what we do at work - we commit to training to get better. Along the way we probably made a few mistakes (fails), we may even have to ‘unlearn’ (go back a few steps) a few bad traits or habits, but with practise comes improvement and with improvement comes results!
But the story doesn't end there. It’s important to remember that CHANGE TRAINING is a constant process – just like tennis players who don’t just stop training once they’ve won a tournament. Rather winning becomes a learning experience and ultimately inspires them to train harder and to become even better.
What we're really saying is that everyone is capable of making positive changes in their lives, but it is a constant process that requires practise and time. So keep going and don't give up!
3. Read and understand WHAT IS CHANGE?